Welcome to a cocktails
Pull up a chair and find the drinks menu. We are going to be a while.
I had the most fantastic birthday on Friday. I turned 36 and we drove up to Wilderness to spend the weekend there. It was amazing. Hubby booked my favourite B&B to stay in. Made reservations at my favourite restaurant (Pomodoro). Had drinks and watched live music at Cocomo both evenings. We explored the market in Sedgefield on Saturday. I got super spoilt with gifts and the birthday messages sent from family, friends, colleagues and of course the sweetest blog pals – was all very much appreciated.
This birthday has been a bit of an eye opener. I don’t expect a red carpet to be rolled out and to be serenaded with Happy Birthday (although I did get sung to by one Uncle). But I was blown away by the thoughtfulness of so many lovely people in my life.
Unfortunately I was also quite amazed at the thoughtlessness of some people in my life. The last I looked it doesn’t take a lot of time to send a birthday wish. Seconds to type it up and ……whoosh….. there it goes to pop up as a WhatsApp/text/e-mail/FB message etc.
So when I’ve known you for many, many years/decades (tick whichever applies) and you cannot be bothered to do this, please don’t expect it from me going forward. Especially when I do it every year for your birthday. Because no matter what I’m going through I always manage to wish a person for their birthday.
The start of the end for any friendship for me is when someone cannot be bothered to send a birthday message. I’m weird like that. I don’t care how long we’ve been friends, forget to wish me and I’ll very easily forget you. It isn’t a great trait to have – I know it can sound rather petty. But when I’ve a good friend for years and you cannot take the requisite 20 seconds to act like one on my birthday, don’t expect to see loads of me going forward. I’ve gone above and beyond for some friends over the years. Battling heavy traffic jams after work to get to a birthday dinner. Parties/braais/get togethers I didn’t always particularly enjoy but made the effort to attend. Hours spent on WhatsApp listening and hoping I’m saying the right thing at a stressful time. etc etc
So don’t bother me in future. Thanks in advance.
I’m going to have a fabulous year ahead and the time saved not wishing lazy folk for their birthdays (plus not even trying to act bothered when I don’t make an effort to attend their birthday celebration) is going to be great. I’m going to save so much time this year filling my diary with do-not-give-a-damn and cannot-be-bothered.
Both are highly time consuming activities and they are AWESOME.
Another round shall we?