Humpday confessions

I always love reading these sorts of posts and writing them is fun too.

Confession no. 1:  When the power went out yesterday afternoon I took out my book and read.  Couldn’t do any work.  Filing was up to date.  Hello extra reading time.

Confession no. 2:  I find Schadenfreude to be a really shitty trait and I have zero guilt from distancing myself from people who make it their hobby.  They actively enjoy anything someone is going through that isn’t bringing joy and resent anything that does.  That is not a friend.  That is someone I avoid.

Confession no. 3:  Clinique is having a free gift with purchase at one of my favourite shops and I cannot wait to go after work.

This thought has gotten me through an extremely long Wednesday.

Confession no. 4:  Last night we had such a lazy supper I’m ashamed to think how little thought, cooking and nutrition went into it.  Zero on all counts.

Confession no 5:  I wanted SO badly to love the sequel to “Firefly Lane” by Kristin Hannah.  But “Fly Away” is one of my least favourite books.  I tried – seriously I did but I have never been so happy to finish a book.  Ever.

What about you?  Anything you’d like to get off your chest?

xx

Friday gratitude

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Hello Friday!  You know when you have those weeks where you are just brilliant at adulting, tick tons off your to-do list and are sitting on a Friday afternoon feeling smug and accomplished?  Well that isn’t me today.  Maybe next week hey?

I had the best birthday weekend and then it was back to reality on Monday (I do have some more leave planned so I musn’t complain).

There was alot of wine consumed this week.  I’m actually a bit embarressed about the amount of recycling I need to sort out.  Really lazy dinners.  Not alot of gym.  I spent alot of my week feeling overly sensitive to absolute nonsense and just incapable of releasing things from the past and moving on.

Let it go is a Disney song and sadly not my current motto.

Anyway………..

Friday means linking up with the Peaceful Posse – Lindsay http://theflynnigans.com/ Charlotte http://mypixieblog.com/ and Beth http://coffeeuntilcocktailsblog.com/ with a weekly gratitude list.

  • Having a great time in Wilderness for my birthday weekend.  If you are ever in South Africa I highly recommend visiting the Garden Route for an amazing time.  We go a few times a year to Wilderness and love every moment.
  • Getting spoilt with lovely gifts.  Got a new Pandora charm for my bracelet from hubby as well as two bouquets of roses.
  • The weather was awesome for most of the weekend – sunny and warm.  We’d expected rain and it only started late Saturday afternoon.  Being from Cape Town and having this drought we never complain when there is rain but sunny weather on my birthday just makes me smile!
  • Bowls with my in-laws on Monday after work.  Lots of fun.
  • Dinner afterwards.
  • My Mother-in-law having a good Dr’s visit this week.  She goes every 6 months for a check up after her cancer scare in 2017.
  • Cooler weather today.  Yesterday was unbearably hot.
  • Lastly and this is a personal one.  I took a big step and have decided that I will go and chat to someone about my anxiety and low moods which arrive with little warning.  Sometimes they flatten me and lately they seem to take longer to leave.  It doesn’t seem like any amount of yoga, meditation, tea, healthy eating, exercise, creative writing and wine (obviously not all at the same time) is helping me be my best self.  And I despise the fact I take it out on those I love the most.  I’d appreciate any advice that any of you would like to share.  You don’t have to post in the comments (if you prefer) you can contact me via my blog, message me on FB, drop an e-mail, whatever is easier.  Just any advice that you found helpful or would recommend.  I’ve spent years thinking this will go away on its own and it just isn’t.

xx

January 2019 recap – What’s New With You? Link Up

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Today I’m linking up with the lovely Kirsten from http://www.seeyouinaporridge.com/

January was a very busy month and looking back there are some things I’d have liked to do differently.  I didn’t make time for yoga and I feel that would have made a huge difference.  Didn’t meditate much which would also have put me in a calmer space.

Work was very busy, I didn’t take much leave over December (and none in January) and I feel the days at the office just got away from me.

I tried lots of new things which was great and did a post as my Word for 2019 is Adventure!  https://my30somethingadventures.wordpress.com/2019/01/31/january-adventures/  New restaurant, recipe, wine, hiking trail, gym class – I’ve made a good start with trying new things this year.

The days before my birthday last Friday were super busy and I didn’t make time to go get my nails done or have my hair trimmed.  Actually self care wasn’t a huge part of January and that wasn’t cool because I could feel I wasn’t my best self.  My birthday was amazing but as it was on the 1st February (and this is a January recap) I’ll have to save it for later 🙂

I read 3 books and enjoyed “Friend Request” by Laura Marshall the most.  I really enjoy a book that keeps you guessing throughout.

I used my new planner which I’m loving – did a review on it https://my30somethingadventures.wordpress.com/2019/01/28/keeping-it-together-2019-my-planner/

Something that I’d really like to change about myself is the ability to be less overly sensitive.  To take things less seriously.  Too care less what people think or the throw away comments they make.  To embrace the positive and focus on the negative less.  But January felt like my mind was switched on 24/7 and I struggled to just let things go.

I keep seeing quotes and posts online about letting go what doesn’t bring joy and I’m rethinking my circle at the moment.  Some friends are awesome and I love spending time with them but some friendships are now past their expiry date and it is time to move on.  I hope that doesn’t sound too harsh.  Yip back to worrying what people think!

What about you?  What is new with you?

xx

February goals and mantras

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And February is here!

Lets see how I did on my January goals:

  • Continue going to yoga No and I’m disappointed I didn’t make time
  • Try something new at gym  Tried a Pound class and went 3 times!
  • Update blog 10 times  Did a couple more!
  • Keep holiday feeling alive!  Less stress more laughter.  Could be better at this.
  • Read 3 books
  • Spend more time outside, less online.
  • SORT BOOKCASE  Yes at long last!  It looks great!

I’m pretty pleased with my goals overall.  The yoga would have made a huge difference to a really busy month and I should have made more time.  January had some really busy weeks and I took a days leave for my birthday so last week felt like a crazy rush.

February goals are:

  • Go to yoga as often as I can
  • Read 3 books
  • Do a birthday recap post on my blog
  • Blog 8 times
  • Organise bathroom cupboard
  • 1-2 days offline a week

Mantras for the month ahead

You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with – Jim Rohn

Your circle should want to see you win.  Your circle should clap the loudest when you have good news.  If they don’t, get a new circle – unknown.

xx

Cocktail chat

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Welcome to a cocktails rant chat.

Pull up a chair and find the drinks menu.  We are going to be a while.

I had the most fantastic birthday on Friday.  I turned 36 and we drove up to Wilderness to spend the weekend there.  It was amazing.  Hubby booked my favourite B&B to stay in.  Made reservations at my favourite restaurant (Pomodoro).  Had drinks and watched live music at Cocomo both evenings.  We explored the market in Sedgefield on Saturday.  I got super spoilt with gifts and the birthday messages sent from family, friends, colleagues and of course the sweetest blog pals – was all very much appreciated.

This birthday has been a bit of an eye opener.   I don’t expect a red carpet to be rolled out and to be serenaded with Happy Birthday (although I did get sung to by one Uncle).  But I was blown away by the thoughtfulness of so many lovely people in my life.

Unfortunately I was also quite amazed at the thoughtlessness of some people in my life.  The last I looked it doesn’t take a lot of time to send a birthday wish.  Seconds to type it up and ……whoosh….. there it goes to pop up as a WhatsApp/text/e-mail/FB message etc.

Not difficult.

So when I’ve known you for many, many years/decades (tick whichever applies) and you cannot be bothered to do this, please don’t expect it from me going forward.  Especially when I do it every year for your birthday.  Because no matter what I’m going through I always manage to wish a person for their birthday.

The start of the end for any friendship for me is when someone cannot be bothered to send a birthday message.  I’m weird like that.  I don’t care how long we’ve been friends, forget to wish me and I’ll very easily forget you.  It isn’t a great trait to have – I know it can sound rather petty.  But when I’ve a good friend for years and you cannot take the requisite 20 seconds to act like one on my birthday, don’t expect to see loads of me going forward.  I’ve gone above and beyond for some friends over the years.  Battling heavy traffic jams after work to get to a birthday dinner.  Parties/braais/get togethers I didn’t always particularly enjoy but made the effort to attend.  Hours spent on WhatsApp listening and hoping I’m saying the right thing at a stressful time. etc etc

So don’t bother me in future.  Thanks in advance.

I’m going to have a fabulous year ahead and the time saved not wishing lazy folk for their birthdays (plus not even trying to act bothered when I don’t make an effort to attend their birthday celebration) is going to be great.  I’m going to save so much time this year filling my diary with do-not-give-a-damn and cannot-be-bothered.

Both are highly time consuming activities and they are AWESOME.

Another round shall we?

xxx

January adventures

Each year I choose a word and then I try to live it out for the next 12 months.  You can read about it here https://my30somethingadventures.wordpress.com/2019/01/07/my-word-for-2019-revealed/

and 2018 is here https://my30somethingadventures.wordpress.com/2018/01/03/my-word-for-2018/

2017 here https://my30somethingadventures.wordpress.com/2017/01/11/why-im-swapping-new-year-resolutions-for-one-little-word/

This years word is Adventure and I’m excited to do a recap at the end of each month mentioning the ways I incorporated this word into January.  Now before I continue please note that adventures don’t just mean expensive getaways – I’m looking into trying new things destinations, restaurants, experimenting with food, trying new gym classes etc  Then I’ll confirm if this is something I’ll do again or just a ‘tried that once and that was enough’

  • Hubby and I tried cooking a new pasta dish.  It was delicious – pasta shells and bacon drenched in a cheese sauce.  Will try again but with a different sauce as the cheese sauce was a bit rich.
  • We went to a restaurant we’d never been to before in Darling.  Enjoyable and the food was good. 
  • I tried a new gym class – Pound.  Loved every moment and have done 3 this month.
  • Went on a hike in De Hoop and went to see the vultures up Potberg Mountain. Amazing experience.  Cannot wait to go back.
  • Tried a different wine instead of my usual rose.  Loving the Nederberg Stein I’ve discovered.
  • Read a book by a new Author.  Laura Marshall’s “Friend Request”.   You can read the review here.  https://my30somethingadventures.wordpress.com/2019/01/23/book-review-friend-request-by-laura-marshall/  Super creepy book that kept me guessing.

What about you?  Did you try anything new in January?

There is alot to be said for trying new things.  Wonder what February holds?

xx

On decluttering

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In September last year I cleared out our wardrobes.  I took everything out and sorted through what we still wear and what could be donated.

There was less stuff crammed in and each time I opened the doors everything looked tidy and organized.  I could find everything with ease.  Not only that but the space created meant that I could see at a glance what I still had room for.  I could fill some of the space with new and better fitting clothes.

I did the same with the bookcase at home a few days ago.  Took all our books off the shelves, sorted out the favourites and made a pile of ones that could to go.  Now I have room for new books.

I like to moan about decluttering but honestly once I set my mind to it, I get into the process quickly and love the end result.

But what about invisible clutter?  The sort that you don’t see but feel.  Why is that so difficult to purge?

At the beginning of the month I did a digital detox.  I went through the contacts on my phone and deleted a few.  Then I logged onto Facebook and did the same.  There were a few collectors (those that collect likes and comments but never reciprocate).  I’m not saying that I expect loads of responses when I post something but don’t trawl through my photos all the time like an electronic ghost and then make sure I know you’ve done that.

It is weird.

There was one or two random ex colleagues that I actually didn’t feel like staying into contact with and I unfriended with a clear conscience.

And the feeling that I got from downsizing the list of people who can see my thoughts and photos online was amazing.  I felt as light as a feather.

I feel like I created more space on my timeline so that I can see updates from those who I’m actually interested in staying up to date with.

Life is too short for lots of things.  And having someone that is not a friend (or someone that cannot be happy for you) trawling through your photos and updates online is one of them.

What about you?  Do you find doing electronic decluttering easy or tricky?

xx

Keeping it together 2019: my planner

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I’m linking up with Lauren and Alexandra today to share my 2019 planner.

I get extremely excited by planners/journals/diaries (and stationery) in general.  I’ve tried various diaries and planners over the years and am so happy with the one I chose for 2019.

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I went with the Christian Art Gifts Daily Planner and I’m loving it so far.

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Both this year and next are easy to view at the start.

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The monthly planner is very convenient with a page for each month.  It is perfect for planning ahead.

The whole book just feels spacious which is something I love in a journal/planner/diary.

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There is a section on each page for 5 priorities, a space for appointments and a reminder for calls/e-mails that need to take place.

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But what I love the most is the fact that Saturday and Sunday get their OWN PAGE!  NO SHARING!  I’m so tired of having to squash a fabulous recap of a weekend into a small space.  Seriously – finally a planner that understands that!

xx

Friday gratitude

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It is FRIDAY and what a week it has been.  I had to go to the Orthodontist this morning.  I had braces 22 years ago and now at the age of 35 (well for one more week!) I have braces again.

I’ll only need these for a few months versus over 2 years like back when I had them in the 90’s.

I feel SO old.

Moving on, Friday means linking up with the Peaceful Posse – Lindsay http://theflynnigans.com/ Charlotte http://mypixieblog.com/ and Beth http://coffeeuntilcocktailsblog.com/ with a weekly gratitude list.

  • Brunch at one of our favourite coffee shops on Saturday.
  • Going for a hike on Sunday – very hectic and steep hike I might add
  • Nachos afterwards
  • Going for a 4.5km run on Monday after work
  • Date night on Wednesday
  • Petunias in our garden looking so pretty
  • On target with my Goodreads challenge for this month
  • Orthodontist appointment done and dusted
  • Getting to work out of office today
  • Grocery shopping for tonight sorted out yesterday

Tomorrow we are going to do another hike – different trail hopefully!  Sunday is unplanned for now.  Maybe a cycle maybe a chilled day.  We’ll see.

xx

Book review: Friend Request by Laura Marshall

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Louise receives a friend request one day from an old school friend, Maria.  Louise realizes that this is impossible as (for 25 years) she has believed that Maria is dead.

Louise is haunted with guilt for something she did to Maria all those years ago at a school leaving party.  Something that only she, her ex husband and 2 other friends are aware of.  So the fact that Maria is reaching out has chilling possibilities.

Could Maria be alive?  If so is she seeking revenge?

Or is someone else out to make Louise pay for the awful thing she did to Maria?  The terrible reason behind Maria’s disappearance which Louise has tried to forget.

As sinister messages keep being sent, Louise doesn’t know who to turn to.  The secret she has kept for over 2 decades is about to be revealed and she doesn’t know if she can share it with even her closest friend Polly.

I found this book kept me guessing to the very end and the twist was not something I had predicted.

It is an enjoyable if slightly chilling book which asks the question:  Do we really ever know someone and what they are truly capable of?

xx