Things I don’t justify #1

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I had an idea of doing a post of things I refuse to explain or justify but it ended up being an incredibly long waffle.  So I’ve decided to break the topics up and when I feel a soapbox moment coming on, the material is ready for posting.

Number 1 in my “Series of things I don’t justify” is my 9-5.

I cannot be the only person that has run into job snobs over the years.  To sum it up this is someone that thinks what they do is so much more important and worthy than what  those around them do for a living.

They like to look down on others, for example some cannot imagine office life and spending the day in front of a computer.  “So soul sucking” said a job snob I used to know.  She felt she deserved “something purely creative” and wasn’t going to settle for less (interesting fact:  she is still looking for the perfect job to present itself to her).   My job isn’t creative at all.  I need accuracy, the ability to work to deadlines and juggle tasks when needed.  I require a massive memory and attention to detail is essential.  So when I’ve had a long day I don’t need an even longer Whatsapp from a job snob telling me about their search for something creative and fulfilling as they continue to find themselves “as they could never sit in an office and lose their soul”

I very much still have my soul.  But patience for such snobbery?  Not so much.

Some job snobs work for themselves and cannot imagine what having a boss is about (“people give you work and you do it and then you get more”) said a self-employed friend of a friend in wide-eyed horror.  Seriously – I wish I was joking but I’m not.  The conversation was about deadlines but I might as well have been explaining life on Mars.

Some job snobs don’t work at all and want to think this makes them superior (“I could never deal with office politics” and “I don’t know how you do it”)  Side note:  I do it because I enjoy the financial independence working gives me.  I’m good at what I do.  I enjoy it.  I also find things like a salary and pension to be quite handy.

I’m weird like that.

I’ve learnt to ignore job snobs because it isn’t worth your time actually engaging with someone that thinks what they do (or don’t do) makes them better than others.  Not everyone can have the career they dreamt about growing up.  Not everyone gets the opportunity or has parents to support them while they decide what they really want to pursue.  I see many people who may not be doing their ultimate dream job but getting on with it and making a success of the path they are on.  I take my hat off to people who study part-time while working – it isn’t easy – I know!  I tried it years ago and it is really difficult.

In a nutshell, I won’t justify my career or be talked down by someone who thinks that their journey is so much more important and fulfilling because they had more options before they chose it.

What about you?  Have you ever encountered this form of snobbery?

xx

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Weekend recap

I haven’t done a weekend recap in a while and this past one was so good that it deserves a post of its own.

It has been so cold lately that I’ve been tempted to just hibernate and emerge when spring arrives.  Hubby and I were talking the other evening about spending a night somewhere and last week we decided to make a weekend out of it.  We chose Hermanus and I tell you, it was just what I needed.

I am rationing out my leave at the moment because I’ve used quite a bit and need some for later in the year.  So I got to work early on Friday and made up some hours so I could leave early.  I have the best boss ever – and told him we were hoping to leave early to get ahead of the traffic and he said to go ahead!

Well we were in Hermanus at 3:30pm!  Checked in and did grocery shopping before relaxing with a drink on the balcony.  I could feel the weeks of stress and worrying melting away as we sat and laughed together at random things and smiled thinking of our weekend ahead.  Got comfy in the lounge and watched some tennis – so proud of Anderson!

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Mark made us a braai which was so delicious!  We had puddings from Woolies and then a bath.  Yes a bath.  With water restrictions in Cape Town being at level 6B bathing is a distant memory and we only have stop start showers.  So you can imagine how a bubble bath felt!  It.  Was.  Pure.  Bliss.

We slept so well and barely heard the rain in the night.

Woke up the next morning and Mark went to Harold Porter National Botanical Garden to do a hike and photograph a waterfall (more on this shortly).  I stayed in bed reading and drinking tea.

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Bedroom view

I loved the trees outside the bedroom and could hear the drizzle on and off while I read.

I was hoping Mark was getting the photos he wanted of the waterfall.  He returned late morning very happy with the hike he’d done and the photos.

Now regarding the hike and waterfall photography!  I’m used to him getting back from these trips cold and wet but this time he had slipped on a rock that moved, scraped his shin, landed hard on his ribs and returned cold, wet, bruised and sore.  I did what I could to clean the huge scrape and put Mark’s clothes in front of the heater while we had breakfast.  Never a dull moment!

Below is a pic Mark took at Kleinmond early in the morning.

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After breakfast we took a drive to Gansbaai.

Selfie below 🙂

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Hermanus waves.

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This is at Danger Point.

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Gansbaai.

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We came back and watched some rugby before another fabulous braai.

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The next morning Mark returned to get some more photos of the waterfall (promising to be careful after my speech on safety).  He returned alot drier and had only one wet shoe (which dried quickly thanks to the heater).

We had a slow breakfast and showered before packing up and making our way home.

This weekend was just what I needed.  I loved it and cannot wait to go back.  Hubby agrees and says he’ll pack his wellingtons in next time so his feet stay dry!

The stress with my mother has really taken its toll on me lately.  It is impossible to be in two places at once and we were not the ones who moved.  We’ve made a huge effort visiting and driving the distance and even after numerous trips and endless worrying I’m still not given the full story with health issues and updates.

I simply cannot anymore.  I’ve worried myself sick and all I’ve ever asked was to be given honest updates and be kept in the loop.  Too much to ask and I cannot let it drain me anymore.

The photos of the waterfall at Harold Porter were amazing and we are having one printed and put on our wall at home – a reminder of a fantastic weekend.

xx

Book review: The Breakdown by B.A Paris

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It is not often I finish reading a book in 3 days.  It was during a rainy weekend and perfectly timed for this page-turning psychological thriller.

Cass is a teacher who has just celebrated the end of term with colleagues.  A storm starts just as she is leaving to go home.  Her husband, Matthew warns her not to take the shortcut which goes past the woods.

She doesn’t listen.

As she is driving in the storm she sees a car broken down and stops alongside it.  Cass can see a lady inside but when she doesn’t get out, Cass drives on and tells herself that she’ll phone for help when she is home.

Except she forgets.

When she wakes up the next morning, she hears that a woman was murdered on that road the night before.  Feeling guilty that she didn’t stop and help, Cass pretends that she travelled a different way home.  She keeps her guilty secret to herself but her horror at what happened is magnified when she realises she knew the victim.

Then things start happening that make Cass question her sanity.  There are silent phone calls.  A pram she didn’t order is delivered to her home.  She finds a knife matching the description of the one used in the murder in her kitchen (but it dissapears before she can show Matthew).  She fears that she is losing her mind as she starts forgetting simple things.

Readers will find a couple of twists and I did guess part of the ending (I had suspected something early on in the book and turned out to be right).  However there was a big surprise that I didn’t see until the very end.

xx

Weekly gratitude

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First Friday in July – where is the year going to?  We are in the middle of winter and have been having some amazing rain.  Also there is snow on the mountains which definitely adds to the chill!  Really enjoying the heater in our office (I switch it on in the mornings before my PC) and it makes such a difference.

As it is Friday, I’m linking up with Lindsay http://theflynnigans.com/ Charlotte http://mypixieblog.com/ and Beth http://coffeeuntilcocktailsblog.com/ with my Friday gratitude list:

  • Rain and so much of it lately!  Dam levels are rising and looking so much better than last year this time.
  • Mark making the most delicious butter chicken – it is perfect in this cold weather.
  • Date night on Tuesday.
  • Goodreads – finally I have an organised way of keeping a list of books I want to read.  So much easier than writing them on pieces of paper I lose and then standing in a bookshop saying “Now I don’t remember the author or full title but I know what it is about”
  • Tea.  I love tea all year round but it tastes so good in winter.
  • Books that are so good, you cannot put them down. I read “The break down” by B A Paris and finished it in 3 days.  It was such a page turner.
  • Ending work an hour early yesterday while Mark had a late meeting.  I came home and put the kettle on.  Since the sun was shining and it wasn’t freezing, I had tea outside on the bench and read a bit.  Then I did some creative writing and when Mark got home we went out for dinner.  Delicious burgers just made it a really good Thursday 🙂
  • The cactus plant in our garden is looking rather fancy with the flowers – couldn’t resist a pic
  • Learning to make peace with an upsetting situation.  No matter what I do or how much I care, it will never be enough for certain family members.  After 35 years – why am I surprised?
  • The weekend being less than 3 hours away.

xx

Sentence a day: June edition

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I got this idea from Lindsay  http://theflynnigans.com  You sum up a month with a sentence (sometimes more) per day.  It is basically a snapshot of your month!  Remembering a month day by day is not easy so I keep an electronic record and each day just add the previous day’s highlight or happenings and there you go – 30 days condensed.

Friday 1st June 2018:  Weekend – hooray! Had the most delicious butter chicken for dinner – awesome start to the weekend.

Saturday 2nd June 2018:  Cycling today is out because of the rain.  Had breakfast out and then did a bit of shopping.

Sunday 3rd June 2018:  Hubby went to Kirstenbosch early this morning and I read and drank tea in bed.  We made brunch when hubby got back and then in the afternoon went to gym.  I ran 4 km’s, came home to change and then went to the movies.  Watched “Life of the party” with Melissa McCarthy – brilliant movie.  Had dinner at Cattle Baron and came home for dessert (Dunkin Donuts).

Monday 4th June 2018:  Busy day, had an easy but relatively healthy dinner and watched My Kitchen Rules South Africa.

Tuesday 5th June 2018:  We went to the butcher after work, then to gym and afterwards did grocery shopping.

Wednesday 6th June 2018:  Warm day, said goodbye dry month and had drinks outside

Thursday 7th June 2018:  My Mom got most of her test results and they are clear.  So so so so extremely relieved!!

Friday 8th June 2018:   Delicious curry for dinner – I think this is my new favourite dinner.  Perfect for the cold weather.

Saturday 9th June 2018:  Rain and lots of it!  It cleared up for a bit in the afternoon and Mark went to Kirstenbosch to get a landscape photo (it looked awesome).  I pottered around catching up on laundry and started a James Patterson book (The store).  Poured more with rain later in the afternoon.

Sunday 10th June 2018:  Went to Langebaan and cycled 32 km’s.  Not my best cycle – distance or speed.  Tried a really steep hill and was exhausted afterwards.  Came home and had a late lunch and chilled watching “Life in Pieces”, caught up on “My Kitchen Rules Australia”.

Monday 11th June 2018:  Busy day so we had an easy supper after work.  Mark had work to do so I watched a horror (“Visions”) while I did some ironing.  I guessed the ending very quickly – think I’ve seen too many horrors and thrillers!

Tuesday 12th June 2018:  Ran 4.2 km’s after work.

Wednesday 13th June 2018:  Lunch with a friend from work, ended an hour early and had dinner at Cattle Baron.

Thursday 14th June 2018:  Rain!

Friday 15th June 2018:  Start of FIFA World Cup.  Got snacks after work to enjoy while we watched the soccer.

Saturday 16th June 2018:  Cycled 42 km’s and had lunch at Ginja Beanz in Langebaan.

Sunday 17th June 2018:  Read with tea in bed and then went for brunch at Fraiche Ayres. Went to play squash in the afternoon – I’m so out of practice!

Monday 18th June 2018:  Went to do a quick grocery shop after work and had an easy dinner.  Frozen yoghurt for dessert.

Tuesday 19th June 2018:  Cold and rainy.  Went to have dinner at Cattle Baron.

Wednesday 20th June 2018:  Ran 4km’s after work.

Thursday 21st June 2018: So cold! Thank goodness for heaters.

Friday 22nd June 2018:  Delicious curry for supper – seems to be our weekend routine at the moment and I love it! So glad the weekend is here and can sleep late for 2 mornings.

Saturday 23rd June 2018:  Hubby went to Kirstenbosch and Newlands to take more landscape photos and I drank tea and read in bed.  We had lunch at Rambling Rose and then took a drive to Cape Point.  We both hadn’t been in so many years and even in the rain it was stunning.

Sunday 24th June 2018:  Went shopping and had lunch with a friend.  Woolies had some amazing promotions on and I saved quite a lot while stocking up on new pajamas and a cardigan.

Monday 25th June 2018:  Heard my Mom is back in hospital and being treated for a UTI while they run more tests.  Hopefully she can leave after 5 days.  Had dinner (sushi) with a friend from work and her cousin.

Tuesday 26th June 2018:  Cleaned after work and then treated ourselves to dinner out.

Wednesday 27th June 2018:  Horrible headache for most of the day.

Thursday 28th June 2018:  My Mom could leave the hospital today.  I ran 4.2km’s after work.

Friday 29th June 2018:  Friday at last.  Had a delicious curry for dinner.

Saturday 30th June 2018:  Had lunch at Rambling Rose and then took a drive to Cape Point.

So that was my month.  Reading back, I can see how often I mention food haha!

xx

July goals and mantras

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So here we are!  A new month has started and I love doing this monthly post and linking up with fabulous Peaceful Posse – Lindsay http://theflynnigans.com/ Charlotte http://mypixieblog.com/ and Beth http://coffeeuntilcocktailsblog.com/ as we list goals and mantras for the month ahead.

Okay, so June goals were:

  • Drive more often – Nope.
  • Read 3 books  Yes and I joined Goodreads (having so much fun!).  Shout if you are on there!
  • Continue healthy meal planning  Yes!
  • Make June a dry month – Not a chance.
  • Be more mindful – Getting there slowly.  It is a work in progress.

July goals are as follows:

  • Read 3 books
  • Update Goodreads with books I’ve read (have I mentioned in the last 5 minutes that I love this website?)
  • Blog 10 times
  • Do more creative writing
  • Drive more often
  • Meditate after a stressful day
  • Continue being mindful
  • Continue going to gym and don’t use winter as an excuse
  • Make hubby’s birthday at the end of the month awesome 🙂

Mantras for the month:

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xx

 

TGIF

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This has been a week that won’t make the list of favourites. My Mom was back in hospital – everytime I think she is sorted, she has another health scare.  Thankfully she was able to leave yesterday and is back at home after a course of serious antibiotics.  She’s had 4 stays since December excluding times she’s gone in but was able to leave the same day.  So I’ve had a heavy heart this week and haven’t blogged much – just haven’t been in the right space.

However it is Friday and I’m linking up Lindsay http://theflynnigans.com/ Charlotte http://mypixieblog.com/ and Beth http://coffeeuntilcocktailsblog.com/ with my Friday gratitude list:

  • Going to Cape Point over the weekend.  Hadn’t been in so long and even though it was pouring with rain, it was awesome to visit.
  • Shopping day with a friend on Sunday.  Bought jim jams, slippers, a cardigan, thermal top and pumps.  Got some amazing discounts on the pj’s and cardigan.  We enjoyed lunch out in between the shopping which was fun.
  • Rain – every drop that goes into our dams is a blessing.
  • Sushi on Monday night.  Had dinner with a friend from work and her cousin who I hadn’t seen in ages.
  • Date night on Tuesday.
  • A clean home.
  • Ran 4km’s after work on Thursday.  Last thing I felt like was going to gym, but it felt so good afterwards.
  • Meal planning and enjoying healthier dinners Wednesday and Thursday.
  • Enjoying Goodreads – I love seeing what others are reading – please let me know if you are on there.
  • Started a new book this morning called “The break down” by B A Paris. Only 30 pages in and cannot put it down.

I love Beth’s  http://coffeeuntilcocktailsblog.com/ OLW for the year which is nourish and after this week I need to do a lot of this myself.  Just unplug and unwind.  So that is the theme for this weekend.  We are having lunch out tomorrow and hopefully we can play squash on Sunday. The weather is supposed to be cold and rainy so there will be no cycling.

It is pouring with rain at the moment and I’m going to go make a cup of tea before tackling the afternoon.  Got some things to do before hometime and then the weekend can begin!

What about you?  What is on your gratitude list right now?

xx

If we met for coffee

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I always enjoy these sorts of posts which Lecy https://asimplergrace.blogspot.co.za/ does.  One writes about what they would discuss if they met a friend for coffee.  Any thoughts or concerns are shared and it is an enjoyable way to open up about what is on your mind.

If you and I met for coffee, I’d opt for hot chocolate – it warms me up instantly and I have quite a sweet tooth.  We’d talk about how cold it has been lately and I’d admit that in the past I used to dread winter and the cold temperatures.  Recently I’ve decided to embrace it and just enjoy the current season.  We so desperately need the rain and we’ve been fortunate that our dam levels are increasing while getting the much needed rainfall. We’d talk about the good things that are often overlooked in winter.  The way tea just tastes even better.  Putting on winter pajamas after a hot shower. Getting comfy in front of the tv while sitting under blankets.  The cosy feel of the kitchen when I bake on a cold rainy day.  Delicious curries and stews and soups.  We’d focus on the positives instead of complaining how difficult it is to get out of bed in the mornings!

As our drinks arrive, I’d tell you that I’ve gotten back into my creative writing recently.  I often do the NaNoWriMo in November (National Novel Writing Month) but yesterday I just started on something new.  With my blog, I haven’t spent much time doing any creative writing but last night I typed out a few pages and look forward to continuing.

We’d order something sweet to go with our warm drinks and I’d choose a lemon meringue.  As we wait for our treats, I’d tell you that I’m trying to get back into shape but exercising is difficult in winter.  It seems easier to find an excuse than look for my running shoes and get to gym.  Once I’m there, it is fine but the cold weather tires me out and makes skipping a workout seem like an easy option.

As we finish our cake, I’d tell you that I am still not finished with my new blog and I know I need to work on it soon. I know how I’d like it to look, now I just need to set aside time to get it ready.

We’d settle the bill and agree to meet soon.

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Friday gratitude

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We’ve had some amazing rain this week and it has filled me with gratitude when I see the dam levels increasing.  Winter has never been my favourite season yet this year I’m embracing the weather and just going with it.  I know spring will come again and until then I’m enjoying the cosy aspects of the cold weather like hot chocolate, butter chicken and delicious soups.  Winter jim jams and the comfort of my winter gown.  Burrowing under blankets while watching TV.  Sipping tea in front of the heater.  Snuggling in bed.

Today I’m linking up Lindsay http://theflynnigans.com/ Charlotte http://mypixieblog.com/ and Beth http://coffeeuntilcocktailsblog.com/ with my Friday gratitude list:

  • My Mom being up and about after weeks of bed rest.
  • I cycled 32 km’s on Sunday. Not my best distance but I tried a massively steep hill and didn’t do too badly.
  • Roast chicken and mayo on sesame seed rolls.
  • Quarter end is done and dusted
  • The list on the fridge.  I bought a shopping list which sticks to our fridge as a reminder of things we need when grocery shopping.  Instead Mark and I have turned it into a game of leaving hilarious messages for each other whenever we are in the kitchen.
  • Lunch with a work friend this week.  Had breakfast for lunch which I always enjoy.
  • Books that you cannot put down.  I enjoyed “The Store” by James Patterson this week.  Read it in days.
  • Date night on Wednesday. Ended work an hour early which was great and then in the evening we went out for dinner.
  • Lindt chocolate balls (the strawberry flavour is my current favourite)
  • Joining Goodreads! Oh my goodness why did I take so long? Shout if you are on there!  I’ve already friended some bloggers and it is so much fun seeing what everyone is reading.

Tonight we are having butter chicken for dinner and my mouth is already watering.  We need to go grocery shopping after work and pick up snacks as the FIFA World Cup starts tonight!  Tomorrow we are hoping to go for a cycle (weather is looking good at the moment) and then brunch afterwards in Langebaan.  No other plans other than to keep warm and unwind after the week.

What about you?  What is on your gratitude list at the moment?  Any exciting plans for the weekend?

xx

Midweek confessions

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I love these posts.  You can just do a massive mind dump of all the random things floating in your head and blog about it!

Here are my weekly confessions:

  • I’m spending ages on weather websites.  And then I go onto other websites and compare the rainfall.  Then hope the one that predicted the most is correct.   In short this drought has really made me aware of how badly we need rain and how desperately we need to conserve every drop.  I don’t know when last I went onto websites with fashion.  I’m too busy checking dam levels online and comparing them with last years levels.
  • I left my phone at home a few days ago and it was great.  I got so much done and didn’t miss FB at all.
  • I find ironing to be extremely relaxing.  I used to love helping out my Mom when I was growing up with the ironing and I remember practicing on simple things like towels when I was 10.  Then I moved onto t-shirts and eventually my Dad’s work shirts.  So many people say they cannot stand ironing but I love it.
  • I recently joined Goodreads and don’t what took me so long!  If you are on there – let me know!
  • I had breakfast for lunch today – I prefer it to a toasted sandwhich!  Met with a work friend and we had eggs, bacon, tomatoes and toast before making our way back to the office.
  • I’m leaving an hour early today – yippee!  Always feels good getting more out of the evening 🙂

What is on your mind today?

xx