I’m linking up for a monthly coffee date with Lecy https://asimplergrace.blogspot.com/
If we met for coffee, I’d choose a place that has a choice of desserts that we can enjoy during our catch up. I feel like a chocolate muffin and a cappuccino, how about you?
If we met for coffee, I’d tell you that this weather is so strange but I’m not complaining. We are supposed to be having our summer but the temperatures have been really cool and we’ve been getting rain (also a blessing). I did the whole wardrobe switch around ages ago and yet I’m still wearing cardigans and tights occasionally to work. Today I had the heater on haha!
I’d ask you how your weekend was. Mine was lovely, we went to Hermanus after work on Friday and had a wonderful time. It rained a lot but we made the most of it and returned to Cape Town feeling relaxed. The Million Dollar Golf Challenge was on at Sun City and we enjoyed watching it and thinking of our visit there last month.
As our drinks arrive, I’d tell you that 2020 is around the corner and I’m still deciding on my OLW (One Little Word) for the year. I have plans for a few changes in the new year. Looking at my circle and making some changes going forward. Making time for healthy friendships and letting go of those that no longer bring joy. Sounds pretty simple but (I’ve said this before), there are some people in ones life that you cannot cut ties with. You’ll see them many times going forward and sometimes limiting contact is all one can hope for.
I’m sure there are many in a similar position. So along with limiting contact, there is also editing to be practiced (when forced to run into these folk). Editing the pointless comments. I.e having to hear something completely unnecessary/negative/condescending, mentally tossing comment into bin, zoning out of inane conversation. Repeating until encounter is over.
Life is just too short. This year I realized (yet again) that there are people in my life who simply cannot be happy for me. And that is their choice. Making stupid comments every time I’m excited or happy about something or looking forward to a getaway or just going for a haircut. I don’t need that in my life. The happiness vampires. The vacation vultures. The energy thieves. Seriously, enough is enough.
Honestly, this topic deserves an entire blog post on its own but I keep deleting instead of publishing in case it gets discovered. Although self centred people are usually too busy dragging those around them down to actually read a blog post. So maybe I will post it sometime 😉
We’d get our snacks and I’d ask you what your plans are for the festive season. We are exchanging very few gifts – so much easier this way. My days of rushing around doing Christmas shopping and then having to drop off gifts to various family members and friends (for some reason all the driving around was always up to us) is not something I miss.
I’m looking forward to a quiet and calm festive season. I want to take my time decorating, buying thoughtful gifts and just soaking up the season while remembering the true reason behind Christmas. It is too easy to get caught up in the commercial side of what is a very special time.
We’d finish our coffee and muffins, say goodbye and arrange to meet up again next month.