I started this series a while ago and keep meaning to do another post on things I don’t justify. Here is my first one from earlier this year: https://my30somethingadventures.wordpress.com/2018/07/19/things-i-dont-justify-1/
No. 2: NOT doing group holidays
Hubby and I have done quite a few holidays with both of our families over the years.
I know that holidaying with relatives can be fun and we’ve enjoyed quite a few. But I also know that there are times some of us do a lot more planning, preparation and running around on certain holidays.
Some of us need a getaway after a group getaway.
Do you get where I’m going with this?
Hubby and I work hard enough at the office. So holidays that require additional work are not very relaxing.
My parents have always been very fair when it comes to getaways and I appreciate that. In the past we’d book accommodation in the same holiday complex as them and it was pleasant with everyone having their own space but still enjoying meals and outings together.
Holidaying with my in-laws meant everyone in one house or apartment and not as much space and privacy.
I love our holidays. Just us two. We have our favourites we adore visiting but always enjoy trying new places. And when we are away, that is us time.
If we want to spend hours in nature we can.
If we want to get up early or sleep late we can.
If I want to take out a book and read quietly I can.
We can eat whatever we choose at whatever time we decide.
And neither of us have to make 40 cups of tea a day and wonder when it is acceptable to open a bottle of wine. Which was what the last group holiday 2 years ago consisted of. My hubby is very patient. I’m not always as polite when I can see someone is being deliberately lazy.
I will never know why for some people a holiday is the excuse to become a well read library book and simply check out from the moment they check in.
I’m more relaxed on an “us only” holiday. I enjoy it from start to finish. And I refuse to feel guilty for that.
We went up the West Coast the weekend before last for a fun stay in Langebaan. Mentioned our spontaneous trip over a dinner recently and got “the look” with a side order of silence.
I just calmly continued eating because saying what I was thinking was as follows:
We had a fabulous stay thanks for not asking!
The braai we enjoyed in the evening was delicious thanks for sulking the moment something doesn’t involve you!
We could relax the entire time, not running after anyone who thinks groceries buy themselves, meals are cooked on their own, drinks pour themselves and snacks magically appear from nowhere. Thank you to the wine which made the last group holiday bearable.
I am not going to justify the quality time my husband and spend relaxing together. So the silences, sulks and snarky comments are quite entertaining.
What about you? What do you refuse to justify? Please share 🙂