As I type this the Easter weekend is over and it is back to work. I’ve given my mantras a bit of thought for this month and they are:
My OLW for 2018 is release and I’ve done a rather crappy job of it so far. I’m really, really annoyed that I let nasty comments in and set up residence rent-free in my head. I’m cross with myself for letting someone get to me and bring out the worst in me. And I’m like this because of some throw away comment this person (who ironically didn’t give two thoughts about it afterwards) said to me. I couldn’t rise above the hurt and be the better person, I had to vent to those near and dear to me and all it has done is let this other person win. She’ll always be the way she is and I need to accept this and distance myself (in a polite way). It gets tricky because sometimes rude people like to hide behind the “didn’t mean it like that way” excuse and still expect to see you for dinners and other get togethers. And then you are the difficult one because you’d rather swim with a shark than see them. And it isn’t an old friend or a random person you can easily avoid.
Sometimes being a good person is difficult. I’m dissapointed in someone who I gave more credit to over the years because I thought we mutually respected each other. I looked at endless dinners and group holidays with rose tinted glasses – focused on the positives and swallowed down irritations. But late last year this person was beyond rude and I couldn’t find an excuse to justify her behaviour. I spent days telling myself “she didn’t mean it like that” and “she is going through stuff, try keep that in mind” But you know what? Loads of people go through things and don’t turn nasty or take it out on their relatives and in-laws. They are able to remain polite and show gratitude when those around them do nice things for them. Not insult them. Make stupid comments to belittle them. Then deny it before they think they can justify it.
Anyway, on to goals. My March goals were:
- Sort linen cupboard. Seriously. Well I have 2 more shelves to organise so that is something.
Learn to say no more often.Yes. I put my foot down on something and am pleased. What gets to me is when you say no and then get asked again. Before now, I’d feel bad and then give in but I didn’t. I just spelled it out clearer. And the answer was still NO. Continue water conserving efforts.It is a mindset which is a part of daily life these days. Even when I’m in a non-drought area I’m still saving water. Blog at least 8 times and include our Sun City holiday and a post on the drought in Cape Town.Blogged 9 times and included both posts. https://my30somethingadventures.wordpress.com/2018/03/14/our-sun-city-holiday/ https://my30somethingadventures.wordpress.com/2018/03/28/the-drought-in-cape-town/ Plan a spontaneous day trip or weekend awayHad a great time in Langebaan. Decided just days before to go!
- Go to gym more often This is a big no. Had flu which took a few weeks to get over. I feel like this is a valid excuse not to go running as often as I’d like.
Read 3 booksRead 4!
April goals are as follows:
- Finish last 2 shelves of linen cupboard
- Sort bathroom cupboard out
- Go to gym.
- Read 3 books
- Live out my OLW for the year. Stop making excuses and just release!
- Decide on a blog name – new blog is getting there – just need to make a final decision on the name.
- Go for a cycle. I lost my cycling confidence a bit and need to get it back.
- Drive more often. Definitely a trend here with wheels and I.