5 Things I refuse to feel guilty about

Lets face it we have enough to do each day.  Adding guilt to that to-do list is just not on.  Life is short!  Here is my top 5 things I refuse to feel bad about:

  • My shoe collection. For as long as I can remember I have loved shoes. My earliest shoe memory involves a pair of yellow, red and blue sandals (this was the late 80’s by the way). They gave me blisters but did I take them off? Nope. My love affair with these beautiful feet decorations had started. And it hasn’t gone away.  I’m always on the look out for the next perfect pair.
  • Having a cheat/treat day. You know how some days you wake up, plan to hit the gym, make a healthy dinner and read some self-improvement magazine or book before going to bed at a decent hour? And then life happens and you drive past the gym, stop at the grocery’s store bakery counter and binge watch a reality show for hours.  Well tomorrow is another day (at least that is what I tell myself).  Yesterday I skipped gym so today I’ll work extra hard.  I’m learning balance as I get older.
  • Me time. I love to read. I love to drink tea. Put the two together and you have a blissful form of escapism.
  • When a friendship fizzles out. We live in a world where social media expects us to have a huge circle of friends. But I’d rather have a few close, genuine and honest friends I can be myself with. I cannot handle when a friendship is forced on me. You politely accept a dinner invitation and before you know it, you’ve unwillingly joined a supper club that is okay for the first couple of months and then gets old. And you cannot escape. Your (numerous) hints are not received.  It took ages for this monthly event to fizzle out and the relief was enormous.  I vowed never again to let myself (and poor hubby who got dragged into it as well) get involved in things we are not interested in.
  • Not being able to walk past a stationery or book shop. I’ve tried. I’ve not succeeded. I don’t know if it is possible.

What is on your list of things you refuse to feel guilty about?


24 thoughts on “5 Things I refuse to feel guilty about

  1. Beth says:

    These are all great! I don’t feel guilty about taking some me time, I don’t feel guilty for a cheat day every now and then. I should feel less guilty about friendships that fizzle out, you are right, sometimes it happens and it’s natural and it should be ok to focus energies on those who are close to you.


    • Anthea says:

      Thanks! I loved that donut post of yours and kept thinking of it when I wrote about cheat/treat days. Friendships that fizzle are so often a huge relief – as I get older I want to be around genuine friends only.


    • Anthea says:

      I agree 100% – life is too short for a fake friendship. Years ago I felt bad saying no to a random person who didn’t get hints. I was relieved when she got busy with life and stopped trying to organise ‘fun supper evenings’ which hubby and I dreaded. I should have said no from the start but didn’t.


  2. StephTheBookworm says:

    I love this! These are definitely things you should NOT feel guilty about. If it makes you happy, you shouldn’t regret it. 🙂 I don’t feel guilty about my massive book collection for that very reason.


  3. Emily says:

    I think it’s so important to have me time and a cheat day. It’s always great to treat yourself. I love stationery and book shops. I could stay in a book store for hours.


  4. Shann Eva (@Shanneva) says:

    Awesome! I definitely don’t feel guilty about getting some “me” time. I have three boys, and if I don’t get alone time, then I just can’t handle anything. I also don’t feel guilty about eating chocolate or the silly TV shows I watch.


    • Anthea says:

      3 boys must keep you super busy! I’m glad you make time for yourself – so many people say they feel more able to give after caring for themselves. Yay for chocolate and enjoyable TV shows.


  5. Charlotte says:

    I love this list! I can relate to most (though obviously I’d swap “shoes” for “handbags” ha!). And agree completely re: keeping a tight knit circle of close friends — I’d rather spend all my time really investing fully in making these friendships.

    I refuse to feel guilty about skipping a night on the town in favor of a book in bed. 🙂 Sometimes you have to do YOU, right? XOXO


    • Anthea says:

      Thanks! Yes I can tell you love handbags – your new one is stunning!
      Close friends are great because you genuinely enjoy their company and don’t feel obligated to see them and go along with what they want. You can say no when you want to.
      Totally agree that sometimes you have do YOU. Love that phrase!


  6. Shybiker says:

    These are my very favorite things! Good for you for enjoying them without guilt. Life is hard enough, we don’t need to make it worse.

    BTW, I used to feel funny about buying so many shoes until I met a woman who had 450 pairs of expensive heels. No kidding. She had to add a new room to her house just for her shoe-collection.


  7. Sammie @ The Annoyed Thyroid says:

    Oh yes, I’m with you on the treat day and the fizzling friendships. As I’ve got older, I’ve realised that when it comes to my friends, it’s quality rather than quantity that counts!


    • https://my30somethingadventures.wordpress.com/ says:

      Quality instead of quantity – you said it! Nothing worse than a person that collects friends forcing a friendship on one. Drives me batty!


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