Hooray for Friday!

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It was a 4 day week here in South Africa with Wednesday being a Public Holiday.  Even with a shorter week I still feel in desperate need of a weekend.  Been fighting the flu and each time I think I’m over it, the cough returns!

Anyway it is Friday which means linking up with the fabulous Peaceful Posse.  Lindsay http://theflynnigans.com/ Charlotte http://mypixieblog.com/ and Beth http://coffeeuntilcocktailsblog.com/ host this amazing Friday link up called What’s up weekend?  Bloggers share their gratitude lists and it is a great way to start the weekend.  My list this week:

  • Going to a beautiful wedding on Saturday.   It was a stunning day and everyone looked amazing.  We sat at the loveliest table and had such a wonderful time.  Here is a fun pic taken before the reception started.

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  • Dinner out on Tuesday. Had delicious burgers and a relaxing evening knowing the next day was a public holiday
  • A wonderful day off on Wednesday.  We slept late, had a leisurely breakfast, went for a long drive and had a relaxing afternoon. Weather was stunning.
  • Gin and Tonic
  • Being on target with my reading goals this year so far.
  • Working for a wonderful boss who is always available to talk about any work concerns.
  • Pay day today
  • My hair is finally starting to grow.  After my October haircut I thought it would be in a short bob forever.
  • Getting a spa appointment for tomorrow – left it for the last minute but still got the time I requested
  • My new blog……..won’t say more now but I’m revamping my humble blog and the new one should be up and running soon.

What is on your gratitude list right now?



Book review: Surprise me by Sophie Kinsella

Surprise me

Dan and Sylvie have been together for 10 years and live a happy but predictable life.  They have twin daughters, comfortable jobs and life plods along pleasantly.  On a visit to the Dr they are told they are very healthy and can expect to live over 60 more years.

This good news however fills them with panic.  They find themselves asking if they want to be together for over 6 more decades.  So Sylvie comes up with a plan to surprise each other and ends up with more than she bargained for.

I’ve always been a huge fan of Sophie Kinsella’s books.  From the shopaholic series to her stand alone books – I’ve read most of them and enjoyed each one.  So I was excited to see there was a new one out and I had high expectations for “Surprise me”.  Unfortunately this was my least favourite book of hers.

I found Sylvie to be odd from the start.  She’s lived a priveledged life but carries around huge daddy issues.  When she finds out she’s got a long and healthy life ahead of her, she panics.  Seriously, who takes health for granted?  What a First World “problem” to have!  I felt sorry for her husband from early on in the book.  There is a surprise of note – quite a shocker – towards the end but it does little to save the story.

It isn’t often I regret buying a book but this was one of those times.


My OLW recap


I wrote about my OLW (One Little Word) for 2018 at the beginning of the year.


I chose the word release and I’ve realised that while I had the best intentions, I haven’t been very good at putting my OLW into practice everyday.

Old habits surfaced not long after the countdown on New Years Eve. I reminded myself that it was a daily exercise and that it needs to be practiced regularly to become a habit. So this is what I’ve done so far.

  •  I’ve put the ‘unfollow’ and ‘mute’ options on FB and Twitter into good use. Those that just want to fill my timeline with negativity (as well as those that just want to clog it with endless brag posts) are getting an unfollow.  A few weeks ago I logged onto FB and could feel my blood pressure rise at a smug share of an article guaranteed to get a reaction.

I just sat there asking myself why are you wasting your time (and data) on this rubbish?? Unfollow! So I did.

  • I’ve stopped visiting websites that don’t bring joy. I’m over pretending various entertainment websites are adding anything to my life. Same with a few magazines which I used to enjoy reading. I feel like some articles are meant to add insecurity not happiness – and I’m over that. I don’t care who wore what better. Knowing how someone snubbed someone else in Hollywood is not going to add anything to my day, never mind my life. I prefer spending time catching up on the blogs or reading a book.
  • Releasing clutter. Often I hang onto something because I’m a sentimental old bat and cannot part with stuff. So I’ve accumulated a lot of unnecessary things because someone special gave me something decades ago. You know how it goes.   So I started with the kitchen cupboards and am pleased with my efforts so far.  The other day I tackled a shelf in the linen cupboard. I’m getting there.
  • Realising that there are a couple of people in my life who will never change but I don’t need to let them get to me.  Ignore, ignore, ignore.  Then repeat.  I refuse to downplay something awesome because some people are incapable of being happy for others. Hubby and I have distanced ourselves from two toxic people who think that they can take-take-take and give nothing but rudeness in return. Don’t need that in our lives and spelling that out last week was very enjoyable.

Did you choose a OLW for 2018? If so, how is it going as you put it into practice?


Our Sun City holiday

Last month Mark and I went to one of our favourite places – Sun City!  We love going there because it has so much to see and do.  We flew up one Saturday morning and checked into a B & B in Rustenberg.  This way we could add 2 days to our holiday.  We drove to Pilanesberg National Park on the Saturday and got some great sightings before we left to go have dinner.

The view from the balcony at the B & B was so beautiful – the garden was stunning.


Early Sunday morning, Mark drove back to Pilanesberg and I had a lie in and a leisurely breakfast (I knew we were returning in the afternoon so I chilled out).  The weather was warm but not uncomfortably hot and that afternoon we spent hours driving around the Park which was instant relaxation for me.  I always feel like I leave stress behind when I’m in nature.

We checked out the next day and drove to Sun City.  Had breakfast at the Lost City Golf Course (I love their restaurant) and walked around before check in.  Did some grocery shopping and that evening we had a braai and lovely evening in our comfortable apartment.  I love a good braai and on holiday they just taste better!


We visited the park throughout the week and enjoyed some amazing sightings.  Hubby got some awesome photos which obviously my humble phone camera cannot capture but here are a few of my snaps!


Elephants.  We were amazed at how close some got and a couple of times had to reverse to get out of their way!


Giraffes – so graceful and elegant!


Warthogs who had enjoyed fun in some mud!


Loads of Zebras


Black-backed Jackals


Beautiful Lionness.  This was a breathtaking sighting as we were the only car at one stage just watching this Lionness walk and call for her pride.  She walked around our car and was in no hurry to go anywhere.

The sighting of the holiday was on our second last day.  We had hoped to see a Leopard the entire time but during each visit to the Park we tried to not get our hopes up.

Well inbetween a drizzly Thursday afternoon as we drove along with fresh optimism and hope, Mark spotted movement under a tree.  He slowed down and there she was!  A beautiful Leopard who walked in front of the car, stopped to look at me in the passenger side and then walked into some long grass.  It was over in seconds but an amazing experience.  Mark managed to get a stunning photo that he printed and has put up at home – everytime I look at this beautiful Leopard picture I’m transported back to the afternoon and I’m speechless all over again.  They are elusive and not easily spotted.  Seeing one is such a treat and this was our second sighting in two trips.

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A new addition to Sun City was the Forest of Lights which we visited one night.  It was beautiful and tranquil walking through the stunning lights.




This was on the way to the Valley of the Waves.  You can see the towers of the Palace sticking out.


We enjoyed a couple of breakfasts (and scones and tea in the afternoon) at Gary Player Golf Club throughout the week.



One evening after spending the afternoon in the Park we drove back to the apartment to find a pack of Mongeese running around outside!


The week flew by and when we checked out on the Friday I was sorry to leave.  Pilanesberg National Park is one of my favourite places and I’m missing it already.


Hello Friday!

What a week!  Work has been super busy – it was our quarter end so the days have flown by in a mad rush.

When the alarm went off this morning I just thought TGIF!  Weekend is here!

Each Friday I share my gratitude list and link up with Lindsay http://theflynnigans.com/ Charlotte http://mypixieblog.com/ and Beth http://coffeeuntilcocktailsblog.com/ called What’s up weekend?  Bloggers share their gratitude lists and it is a great way to start the weekend.  My list this week:

  • Treated myself with a DKNY Nectar Love gift set.  Stunning scent.


  • Dinner at one of our favourite restaurants on Tuesday night.
  • I’ve been lazy with preparing lunch and so I ordered through work this week.  It was very convenient and saved time going to the shops at lunchtime.
  • Glitter nail polish that changes in the sun.  Looks like clear glitter indoors and goes a pretty peach shade outside.
  • Reorganising our bedside tables and decluttering some drawers.
  • Wore my new navy floral dress yesterday.  Forgot to take pic but will be wearing it again soon.
  • The series “Life in pieces”.  Jen is my favourite character.
  • Getting a Lindt orange chocolate today from a colleague as a thank you for something I’d helped with.
  • The first cup of tea in the morning while I read. This week has been hectically busy but I kept my this routine and it helped.
  • Getting a last minute appointment at one of my favourite spas for tomorrow.

Tomorrow we are going to do a day trip to Langebaan and I’ve getting a manicure, pedicure and my eyebrows seen to.  Cannot wait for some pampering and relaxation.

What is on your gratitude list this week?  Anything special planned for the weekend?


March mantras and goals

How is it March already?  It means autumn is around the corner and I am not ready to say goodbye to summer.  I bought really pretty sandals the other day and intend to enjoy them before the weather cools down.

Anyway on the goals front for February, I did appallingly.  Last month’s goals were:

  • Run more often – Nope
  • Read 2 books (minimum) Read 3
  • Sort linen cupboard – Nope.  Looked at it.  Closed door.  Switched on TV.
  • Pack healthy lunches for work – I got back into the habit of ordering lunch at work.  Came up with some ideas for hubby’s lunches. 
  • Cook a new recipe  – Nope.  I watched an immense amount of Masterschef and that was the closest I got to thinking of recipes.
  • Be more mindful – an ongoing goal I don’t manage to achieve as often as I should.
  • Stop letting jealous people get to me – getting there slowly but surely.  Ignored the 2 biggest cannot-be-happy-for-others-unless-we-are-involved-and-or-getting-something-out-of-it people in my life. 

March goals:

  • Sort linen cupboard.  Seriously.
  • Learn to say no more often.
  • Continue water conserving efforts.
  • Blog at least 8 times and include our Sun City holiday and a post on the drought in Cape Town.
  • Plan a spontaneous day trip or weekend away
  • Go to gym more often
  • Read 3 books

Mantras for March:

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A rather crappy habit I have is mulling over anything that happened 10 minutes or 10 years ago.  So this quote is so relevant for me.

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A wonderful habit I need to get into.

Well there it is.  What are your goals for this month?


Friday at last!

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What a week!  It won’t go down as my favourite or anwhere near the top 1000 for that matter.  I got back from leave on Monday (worst day to return to work because the week ends up feeling like a year).  Side note:  had a fantastic time in Sun City and the post will follow next week.

Anyway this week was incredibly long and busy and there just didn’t seem to be enough hours in the day.  I feel like I’ve been doing a juggling act playing catch up from when I was on leave and every time I tick one thing off the list there are five more urgent things waiting.  Quite frankly I need to learn how to say no.  I cannot wait for 4:00pm to show up so I can get my weekend started.

Each Friday I share my gratitude list and link up with Lindsay http://theflynnigans.com/ Charlotte http://mypixieblog.com/ and Beth http://coffeeuntilcocktailsblog.com/ called What’s up weekend?  Bloggers share their gratitude lists and it is a great way to start the weekend.  My list this week included:

  • An awesome time in Sun City. Seeing the leopard on our second last day was amazing! Relaxing, being away from work stress and just soaking up the sights and sounds of nature felt so good. I love Pilanesberg National Park and we visited every single day we were away.
  • Coming home on Friday to a spotless home.  Cleaned the day before going on holiday and so glad we did – always feels so good returning to an organised home.
  • My Mom is feeling better – she was in alot of pain earlier this week but got it sorted on Monday.
  • Breakfast at two of our favourite restaurants over the weekend.
  • Bought myself a new dress on Sunday.   Loving navy blue at the moment and don’t know why it took me so long to realise it suits me.
  • Wine after a super shitty day.
  • Roast chicken and comfort food.
  • New slippers
  • Driving on my own and building up my confidence as a driver.  Yes I’ve had my licence for 16 years and no I still don’t enjoy driving.
  • Friday at long last.  Well timed as I have zero patience left for this week.  It has taken my all and I’ve had enough!

Tonight is date night and we are going to the movies and then to dinner.  Cannot wait.  Literally counting down the minutes.

What is on your gratitude list for this week?  Any exciting plans for the weekend?


Friday gratitude

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Good grief how long was this week?  We are sweltering in the heat and praying that we get rain which is forecasted for tonight.  This week has been long.  I had a sore throat, skipped gym and basically didn’t for a moment live out my OLW for 2018.  I’ve let rubbish get to me and I just cannot seem to let go. 

However, it is Friday and that means there is a link up that takes place with Lindsay http://theflynnigans.com/ Charlotte http://mypixieblog.com/ and Beth http://coffeeuntilcocktailsblog.com/ called What’s up weekend?  Bloggers share their gratitude lists and it is a great way to start the weekend.

I didn’t do one of these last Friday so I’m catching up and combining last week and this one.

  • My 35th birthday last week was fun!  We went to Langebaan for the day and had breakfast at Ginja Beanz.  Afterwards I went to a spa for some pampering – had a manicure and pedicure and felt wonderful.  We drove back and had pre-dinner drinks at La Belle.   I was super spoilt with gifts and on Saturday we drove to my parents and sister and they made a huge fuss of me – I felt like I celebrated for days!  My parents organised a delicious lunch and we had champagne, a pudding my sister had made and lots of laughs.
  • My Mom had the stent in her kidney out yesterday and is doing well.  Seeing her over the weekend was awesome – she still gets tired but she says she is feeling better with each day.  The whole weekend while we celebrated I kept thinking how lucky we are that my Mom made such a wonderful recovery and we still have her.  I cannot wait to visit again – still getting used to them being far away.
  • Clinique goodies.  Treated myself to some make up and a moisturiser and got a free gift with purchase.  I love their products and have been using it for over a decade.
  • Gin and tonic.  My Dad made me one over the weekend and it was so refreshing!
  • Feeling better after my sore throat on Tuesday
  • Cutting down on Facebook and realising I don’t miss it at all
  • Having a laugh with a friend on Whatsapp this morning.
  • Healthy lunch today.  Even when I was craving a feta and spinach pie.  Or 2.
  • Tea on long days.
  • Coming to the conclusion that 2 jealous people in my life (who I’ve spent decades being kind to while making excuses for their behaviour thinking it was me being oversensitive) will no longer be seeing me until they learn that respect works both ways.  What pains me is that everyone thinks I get on so well with them (which I did at some stage but it all just went horribly sour late last year).  I’m stunned by the rudeness – I don’t understand how after a healthscare a person can be more blunt, expect more and still dish out rudeness.  The call on my birthday was the FINAL straw.

This weekend is going to be a quiet one.  Need to go to the traffic dept and we are going out for breakfast tomorrow morning.  What are your plans for this weekend?  Whatever they are – I hope you enjoy!


February mantras and goals

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Because they are probably jealous assholes.

I’m so OVER 2 people in particular trying their utmost to drag me down everytime my husband spoils me.  Or we have a lovely holiday.  Or something nice happens to us.  But the moment there is a freebie on the horizon then it is a different story (for about 5 minutes).  There are times I feel like screaming at their stinginess but utmost belief that hubby and I should give more and do more for the 2 most ungrateful people I’ve ever met.

If you have nothing nice to to say then SHUT UP.  Very simple.

Well that is off my chest, time for my goals.  January went alright but could have been better gym wise.

January goals were:

  • Get back into a fitness routine. Run a couple of times a week. Could have done this more often.
  • Look into gym classes to shake my routine up (once I get into one that is) went online and saw the classes that are offered. Still deciding which to attend.
  • Plan meals for the week. Did this slightly better but lots of room to improve.
  • Declutter kitchen cupboards Yes – filled 3 bags of things we don’t use/need.
  • Read 2 books  read 3 and did reviews on each
  • Blog more often and schedule posts ahead of timeblogged 12 times in January. Started scheduling posts a day or so ahead.
  • Plan birthday – my birthday is in 4 weeks  Felt really special and spoilt by hubby, MY parents, family and friends. 

February goals are:

  • Run more often
  • Read 2 books (minimum)
  • Sort linen cupboard
  • Pack healthy lunches for work
  • Cook a new recipe
  • Be more mindful
  • Stop letting jealous people get to me

Here is to a great February.  What is on your list this month?


Last day that I’m 34!

So tomorrow is my birthday and I’m turning 35.


It seems like the other day that I turned 25 and I’m amazed at how quickly time goes. 10 years ago I was a newly wed, hubby and I had bought a home the previous year and I’d been in my current job for a year and a half.

So much has happened in 10 years. There have been wonderful times and happy memories that were made along the way.  Birthdays, anniversaries and celebrations.  Great holidays and adventures with my husband. I love discovering new things with him and with Mark’s photography he is always finding new places for us to visit.

There have been very sad moments as well, as that is life.  We lost my Gran and years before that a very special Uncle passed away. There have been health scares that put things into perspective. Stress and worries. Weight gain and new wrinkles! But I think it is the experiences as well as your view on life that ages one. Not just the years.   I know of people a lot older that are more young at heart than some people half their age. And vice versa. Age is just a number – you realise this as you get older.

There is work I need to do on myself because being an adult is about taking responsibility for yourself.  I’m not the most patient person at times and a terrible habit is that I enjoy getting the last word.  I need to put the important people in my life first more often.  I need to take things less seriously and let go a lot more.  I hope that in a years time I get to look back on my year as a 35 year old as the turning point where I finally became the best version of myself that I could be.

I hope that I’ll never stop looking forward to my birthday because I don’t ever want to stop celebrating the day that marks me as a year older.  Each year brings with it laughter, tears, good times and bad but it brings with it experience.  Lessons.  It also signals a start of a new year to make new memories. I’m hoping to make loads more awesome ones from tomorrow!


ps that pic was taken 2 years ago and I really wish I’d just left my hair as it was.  Add that to the lessons learnt in the last decade.